Have you ever noticed that what others see in us is usually not what we see in ourselves?
How many times have you had a friend or co-worker say to you "You are such a caring person." or "You have such a big heart."? Perhaps a classmate or colleague has said to you "You are so smart!" Ironically these comments usually come when you aren't feeling so generous or so smart.
Have you ever completed a personal assessment or performance review simultaneously with, but separate from, your supervisor? Afterwards, when you and your supervisor compared the two assessments how much higher did he/she (the person that approves or signs your paycheck) rate you than you rated yourself? Isn't it odd that he/she has more confidence in your abilities than you do?
Stop focusing on what you feel are deficiencies in your education or talents. Feelings are just EMOTIONS that aren't necessarily based in FACT! Don't get me wrong, feelings are real ... but they can be wrong. Anything that you believe in is real to you ... it just may not be true.
Rather, focus on the greatness that others see in you! Don't get cocky or arrogant, just know that there are things that you are great at and others admire you for those things! There's always room to improve. No one is perfect. Invest time in strengthening other areas of your life and know that if you can be great at one or two things you can be great at three, four, five, ...!
HAVE A GREAT DAY!
Sunday, September 27, 2015
Wednesday, September 16, 2015
Stuck
So many people feel like they are "stuck" and in so many ways:
You are not stuck! You are where you are because of the choices you have made and continue to make. It is entirely your decision on whether or not you are the same person five days or five years from now!
Make a decision, set a goal and then reach your hand out for help! There are people around you with life experiences and knowledge that they are just dying to share with you. Your local library has FREE books for you to gain inspiration and to educate yourself. Your friends and neighbors have had careers and experiences that will inspire you. They may even have contacts in the exact field that you are looking to enter!
Open your eyes and look around for your inspiration ... then look inside you for your motivation! Find your "WHY?"! The inspiration gets you going, the "WHY?" will keep you going. And be ready for sacrifices. You may have to give up your time (a.k.a. invest your time) or skip a Fivebucks Latte or lose a friend that really isn't a friend. If you know your "WHY?" they won't seem like sacrifices at all! Get unstuck, call today ... operators are standing by and shipping is FREE (just kidding)!
“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go;
they merely determine where you start.” – Nido Qubein
HAVE A GREAT DAY!
- Stuck in a job or career
- Stuck in a relationship
- Stuck in debt
- Stuck in bad health
- Etc.
You are not stuck! You are where you are because of the choices you have made and continue to make. It is entirely your decision on whether or not you are the same person five days or five years from now!
Make a decision, set a goal and then reach your hand out for help! There are people around you with life experiences and knowledge that they are just dying to share with you. Your local library has FREE books for you to gain inspiration and to educate yourself. Your friends and neighbors have had careers and experiences that will inspire you. They may even have contacts in the exact field that you are looking to enter!
Open your eyes and look around for your inspiration ... then look inside you for your motivation! Find your "WHY?"! The inspiration gets you going, the "WHY?" will keep you going. And be ready for sacrifices. You may have to give up your time (a.k.a. invest your time) or skip a Fivebucks Latte or lose a friend that really isn't a friend. If you know your "WHY?" they won't seem like sacrifices at all! Get unstuck, call today ... operators are standing by and shipping is FREE (just kidding)!
“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go;
they merely determine where you start.” – Nido Qubein
HAVE A GREAT DAY!
Monday, September 7, 2015
Two Lists
I've been blessed with inspiring thoughts and ideas from many different directions and resources. Two of the resources that I have learned the most from over the years are my mentors Jim Rohn and Zig Ziglar. Unfortunately, I've never met either man and both have since passed away. Fortunately for all of us their works and philosophies are well documented and readily available.
As I was pressure washing my driveway the other day I was thinking about these gentleman and how much they help me to accomplish and appreciate each day. The great thing about pressure washing is that it's a chore that is very loud, dirty and dangerous. So no one comes near you or interrupts you; plus, it takes a long time ... seemingly forever. In other words, I had plenty of alone time with nothing to do but think.
I can't recall if both Rohn and Ziglar believed in having both of the lists that I mention below. Although I don't believe it matters much, as I will give them each credit for the two lists. In the end, I think they would both agree on the "two list" philosophy anyway.
The two list philosophy: Each night before you retire make a list of all that you are thankful for that day (what you got from the day) and make a second list of all that you want to accomplish the next day. The lists can be very short, but I think you will find that as time goes on your lists will naturally become longer. These lists can be mental, but writing them down will have more staying power. You could also do both of them in the morning or one at night and one in the morning. Personally, I prefer the night time.
The lists in a little more detail:
List One: This list should consist of the things that you are grateful for that happened to you that day - your blessings if you will. They can include the sights that you saw, the people that you met, the people that helped you, the people you were able to help, your paycheck, your car, your children, your parents, your spouse or significant other, etc. If you saw a magnificent three hundred year old Live Oak tree or went to the beach and saw the most amazing sunrise or sunset capture it on your list! If you struggle to start your list begin with the fact that you are alive and still breathing, add to it the gratefulness you will have for the next day's sunrise that will bring more breathes and more opportunities!
List Two: This is not simply a "to do" list. It's a list that you construct before you go to bed at night that supports not only the things that you want to accomplish the next day ... but also supports your long term goals/dreams. It's more of a "to goal" list than a "to do" list. You are writing out tasks that should bring you one step closer to a longer term goal that you have. For instance, if you want to be a novelist you might have a goal to write one chapter or one page of your book the next day. Of course you can list out other things that you are going to do the next day, but at least a few of the items on your "to goal" list need to be oriented towards your dreams/goal. Your list can't be solely oriented on taking out the trash or changing the kitty litter. Your list must include the things in life that give you purpose and satisfy your soul. And as necessary as changing the kitty litter may be ... it will never be said to have satisfied your soul!
Save your lists and add to them and edit them the next evening. You can be thankful for oxygen and the forthcoming sunrise every day, but make sure that you are adding to this list of gratuities. And when you are accomplishing things on your "to goal" list simply strike through the items with a single line, don't completely scratch these items out. You want to make sure that you can look back and reminisce about all the things that you did that helped you accomplish your long term goals.
As I was pressure washing my driveway the other day I was thinking about these gentleman and how much they help me to accomplish and appreciate each day. The great thing about pressure washing is that it's a chore that is very loud, dirty and dangerous. So no one comes near you or interrupts you; plus, it takes a long time ... seemingly forever. In other words, I had plenty of alone time with nothing to do but think.
I can't recall if both Rohn and Ziglar believed in having both of the lists that I mention below. Although I don't believe it matters much, as I will give them each credit for the two lists. In the end, I think they would both agree on the "two list" philosophy anyway.
The two list philosophy: Each night before you retire make a list of all that you are thankful for that day (what you got from the day) and make a second list of all that you want to accomplish the next day. The lists can be very short, but I think you will find that as time goes on your lists will naturally become longer. These lists can be mental, but writing them down will have more staying power. You could also do both of them in the morning or one at night and one in the morning. Personally, I prefer the night time.
The lists in a little more detail:
List One: This list should consist of the things that you are grateful for that happened to you that day - your blessings if you will. They can include the sights that you saw, the people that you met, the people that helped you, the people you were able to help, your paycheck, your car, your children, your parents, your spouse or significant other, etc. If you saw a magnificent three hundred year old Live Oak tree or went to the beach and saw the most amazing sunrise or sunset capture it on your list! If you struggle to start your list begin with the fact that you are alive and still breathing, add to it the gratefulness you will have for the next day's sunrise that will bring more breathes and more opportunities!
List Two: This is not simply a "to do" list. It's a list that you construct before you go to bed at night that supports not only the things that you want to accomplish the next day ... but also supports your long term goals/dreams. It's more of a "to goal" list than a "to do" list. You are writing out tasks that should bring you one step closer to a longer term goal that you have. For instance, if you want to be a novelist you might have a goal to write one chapter or one page of your book the next day. Of course you can list out other things that you are going to do the next day, but at least a few of the items on your "to goal" list need to be oriented towards your dreams/goal. Your list can't be solely oriented on taking out the trash or changing the kitty litter. Your list must include the things in life that give you purpose and satisfy your soul. And as necessary as changing the kitty litter may be ... it will never be said to have satisfied your soul!
Save your lists and add to them and edit them the next evening. You can be thankful for oxygen and the forthcoming sunrise every day, but make sure that you are adding to this list of gratuities. And when you are accomplishing things on your "to goal" list simply strike through the items with a single line, don't completely scratch these items out. You want to make sure that you can look back and reminisce about all the things that you did that helped you accomplish your long term goals.
Thursday, September 3, 2015
Two of life's most important words - delayed and gratification!
Delayed and gratification are two very important words that many people don't seem to care for much these days. The actual disdain for these words is evident when you put them together and say them out loud. Go ahead, go stand in front of a mirror and watch your face as you say "delayed gratification" ICK!.
To many of us, it's a most awful and evil expression. It's a declaration that gives permission to toil today, but to not see the results for days, dare I say ... months! GASP!
Why on earth would anyone want to put off until later the satisfaction of a desire that they could have today? Most people don't want to, nor do they need to put it off. In this day and age of instant: messaging; credit; wait loss; oil changes; and successes ... why should you have to wait for anything? People are screaming from the rooftops "I WANT IT AND I WANT IT NOW!"
Why should you wait? Well ... simply put "anything worth having, is worth waiting for." It's an expression from a bygone age, but it's just as true now as it ever was. The competition for your hard earned instant credit is fierce, which is actually to your advantage, if you can manage to slow down, take a breathe and think before you buy or do anything. The maker of every product on every shelf is trying to figure out a way to get you to buy their product first and frequently! And it's to their advantage if you don't do to much thinking before you buy!
Eventually though you will run out of cash, credit, time and/or health. And the very next day an opportunity comes up that would be the experience of a lifetime ... but you can't take advantage of it. You are about to miss out on the ultimate vacation with friends or family because you've used all your sick days at work and you've maxed out your credit cards buying $5 lattes, $400 handbags and a variety of gemstone collars for your tabby (she just had to have it ... Meow!).
You have permission to delay gratification, like fine wine, many opportunities will be better in a few days ... or months! YEA!
To many of us, it's a most awful and evil expression. It's a declaration that gives permission to toil today, but to not see the results for days, dare I say ... months! GASP!
Why on earth would anyone want to put off until later the satisfaction of a desire that they could have today? Most people don't want to, nor do they need to put it off. In this day and age of instant: messaging; credit; wait loss; oil changes; and successes ... why should you have to wait for anything? People are screaming from the rooftops "I WANT IT AND I WANT IT NOW!"
Why should you wait? Well ... simply put "anything worth having, is worth waiting for." It's an expression from a bygone age, but it's just as true now as it ever was. The competition for your hard earned instant credit is fierce, which is actually to your advantage, if you can manage to slow down, take a breathe and think before you buy or do anything. The maker of every product on every shelf is trying to figure out a way to get you to buy their product first and frequently! And it's to their advantage if you don't do to much thinking before you buy!
Eventually though you will run out of cash, credit, time and/or health. And the very next day an opportunity comes up that would be the experience of a lifetime ... but you can't take advantage of it. You are about to miss out on the ultimate vacation with friends or family because you've used all your sick days at work and you've maxed out your credit cards buying $5 lattes, $400 handbags and a variety of gemstone collars for your tabby (she just had to have it ... Meow!).
You have permission to delay gratification, like fine wine, many opportunities will be better in a few days ... or months! YEA!
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