You need mentors in your life and you need to be a mentor!
Napoleon Hill references the need to have a "mastermind alliance" to help guide you in life/business with decision making and to hold you accountable. In your personal life you need role models or mentors as examples of who you can become. They will be people that will push you in the direction you want to go and help you gain momentum!
A few years ago I remember Marc Miro (ex-WWF wrestler) saying to our parish one Sunday "your friends are like an elevator, they can bring you down or they can bring you up." Make sure that you surround yourself with inspiring mentors/heroes that you would like to become like.
With that in mind, be cautious who you surround yourself with and who you look to for guidance. Adolf Hitler was a great motivator of his people ... but so was Mahatma Gandhi! Which one would you rather get inspiration and advice from?
You may be at a point in your life where you can be a big sister or big brother to someone. Or you can mentor the interns at work. Or you can mentor an older person (yes mentors can be younger than you) on how to make the most out of that smart phone in their hands. By mentoring others you will become more of the person that you want to become. Helping someone else doesn't just make you feel better ... it actually makes you better!
Get a mentor - Be a mentor! Have a great day!
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Monday, December 7, 2015
Sunday, November 29, 2015
The Seventh of Life's Secret Ingredients (7 of 10 or more)
Serve!
Serving others ... fulfilling a need or a want. This is something that comes with multiple rewards. There is a tremendous feeling inside when you are able serve others. There can also be financial rewards too.
Many of us "serve" just for the sake of giving back or contributing to our community. Such as volunteering at a soup kitchen, helping at church, raking an elderly neighbors leaves. All of which are absolutely wonderful things. (Remember not to expect anything in return for these)
But when you are being paid to do a job do you have the attitude of servant-hood? Or, if you were to start a business is it only with the intent to make gobs and gobs of money? There are many people that believe that if you are profiting from an endeavor then you couldn't possibly be serving. I disagree ... this is when servant-hood is most important!
As proof I offer you the relate-able example of a waiter or waitress. We've all had an experience at a restaurant where we were simply wowed by the waitstaff ... and sadly, examples of being underwhelmed also.
Waitperson #1: Has an attitude of servant-hood and wants your experience to be so memorable that you want to come back and ask for him or her. He or she greets you promptly after being seated and discloses their top-secret name, offers up the specials of the day, takes your drink order and gives you a few minutes to look over the menu. Upon their return with your drinks he/she asks if you are ready to order or have any questions and offers suggestions. You order, you get your food, he/she returns periodically to make sure your drinks and other needs are taken care of. When you are done eating he/she makes sure the table is cleared, without you feeling rushed and offers dessert ideas. You say yes or no ... fast forward to when the bill arrives. He/she says "my name again is and it's been my pleasure serving you today, I hope you've enjoyed your meal/experience, when you return (not if!) please ask for me I would love to wait on you again!"
Waitperson #2: Insert almost any other dining experience that you've ever had.
There is no comparison between Waitperson #1 and #2. If the experience were the same, with the exception of the last line, you would still tip Waitperson #1 a lot more and you would definitely return to that restaurant (regardless of the food quality). Not only did waitperson #1 give you great "service" ... they also told you that they loved "serving you".
Why not bring this attitude to everything you do? Have a great day!
Serving others ... fulfilling a need or a want. This is something that comes with multiple rewards. There is a tremendous feeling inside when you are able serve others. There can also be financial rewards too.
Many of us "serve" just for the sake of giving back or contributing to our community. Such as volunteering at a soup kitchen, helping at church, raking an elderly neighbors leaves. All of which are absolutely wonderful things. (Remember not to expect anything in return for these)
But when you are being paid to do a job do you have the attitude of servant-hood? Or, if you were to start a business is it only with the intent to make gobs and gobs of money? There are many people that believe that if you are profiting from an endeavor then you couldn't possibly be serving. I disagree ... this is when servant-hood is most important!
As proof I offer you the relate-able example of a waiter or waitress. We've all had an experience at a restaurant where we were simply wowed by the waitstaff ... and sadly, examples of being underwhelmed also.
Waitperson #1: Has an attitude of servant-hood and wants your experience to be so memorable that you want to come back and ask for him or her. He or she greets you promptly after being seated and discloses their top-secret name, offers up the specials of the day, takes your drink order and gives you a few minutes to look over the menu. Upon their return with your drinks he/she asks if you are ready to order or have any questions and offers suggestions. You order, you get your food, he/she returns periodically to make sure your drinks and other needs are taken care of. When you are done eating he/she makes sure the table is cleared, without you feeling rushed and offers dessert ideas. You say yes or no ... fast forward to when the bill arrives. He/she says "my name again is
Waitperson #2: Insert almost any other dining experience that you've ever had.
There is no comparison between Waitperson #1 and #2. If the experience were the same, with the exception of the last line, you would still tip Waitperson #1 a lot more and you would definitely return to that restaurant (regardless of the food quality). Not only did waitperson #1 give you great "service" ... they also told you that they loved "serving you".
Why not bring this attitude to everything you do? Have a great day!
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
ELEPHANT TASTES GREAT!
Elephant tastes great in the beginning ... then not so good towards the middle ... but finally, by the time you are done, it's the best thing you have ever eaten!
Of course, I am not talking about real elephant, I am talking about the metaphorical elephant (ME). You know, the one that you eat "one bite at a time." I have no desire to eat real elephant, but the ME one is a meal that I have to eat all the time; we all do.
At first glance, all ME's may look really, really BIG! But as it turns out there are ME's of all different sizes. Small, Medium, Large and some are even Super-Sized! Often, you don't have a true appreciation for their size until you've made your plan of attack. Then some previously thought to be gigantic ME's turn out to be not so big after all. Some are just medium sized and others truly are really huge. Regardless, it's your ME and you are going to conquer it!
So you see the challenge in front of you and you dig in to your elephant and the first bite tastes great! Your mouth is watering for a second bite, you're excited, you grab your knife and you cut off a second piece, Mmmm, so good! Then you chew a third, a fourth and a fifth bite and suddenly this ME is not tasting so good, maybe you should take a break? So you take a short break (maybe a couple days off) just to get your hunger back. Then your hunger comes back and you dig in again with even more vigor than your first sitting ... six, seven, eight bites this time, but it doesn't taste quite as good as the first sitting (maybe the meat has spoiled a little bit); and besides eight bites is a lot and you're full again. So you think, maybe it's time for another break? This time you take more than a few days off, you walk past a half eaten carcass several times a day. Sometimes you will look at it, other days you do you best not to look in it's direction.
A few weeks goes by and you are at a point where you have to decide "Do I finish eating this ME? Or do I just push the half eaten carcass over a cliff?" At this point the only thing you remember about the taste of ME is that it is very filling, kind of bland and makes you really full, really fast. But if you wait any longer it will spoil. So you dig in, you take a few big bites and then you come up for air and realize "I am almost done." You convince yourself that you can finish this elephant and as you get closer to the end the meat isn't rotten ... it's actually getting sweeter and sweeter. You crave more and start eating faster ... until you're done, you've eaten your ME! Congratulations!
The feast started out tasting great, then got painfully bland and finally the pendulum swung and it may have been the best meal that you have ever finished!
Now, here's the great news ... you don't have to eat your ME alone! Some of the biggest elephants that you will ever have to eat are intended to feed 5 or 6 people! There is plenty to go around and you will get full credit for conquering your ME, you just have to be willing to share! People love to help! Helping others feels good, contributing feels great. Plus, getting help feels pretty good too. And, not only does it make others feel good to help, they know when they have a giant ME at their dinner table you will be happy to reciprocate! Everyone can conquer their ME's faster, without losing their appetite for the elephant and everyone will enjoy the feast!
Today is a great day to conquer your ME!
Of course, I am not talking about real elephant, I am talking about the metaphorical elephant (ME). You know, the one that you eat "one bite at a time." I have no desire to eat real elephant, but the ME one is a meal that I have to eat all the time; we all do.
At first glance, all ME's may look really, really BIG! But as it turns out there are ME's of all different sizes. Small, Medium, Large and some are even Super-Sized! Often, you don't have a true appreciation for their size until you've made your plan of attack. Then some previously thought to be gigantic ME's turn out to be not so big after all. Some are just medium sized and others truly are really huge. Regardless, it's your ME and you are going to conquer it!
So you see the challenge in front of you and you dig in to your elephant and the first bite tastes great! Your mouth is watering for a second bite, you're excited, you grab your knife and you cut off a second piece, Mmmm, so good! Then you chew a third, a fourth and a fifth bite and suddenly this ME is not tasting so good, maybe you should take a break? So you take a short break (maybe a couple days off) just to get your hunger back. Then your hunger comes back and you dig in again with even more vigor than your first sitting ... six, seven, eight bites this time, but it doesn't taste quite as good as the first sitting (maybe the meat has spoiled a little bit); and besides eight bites is a lot and you're full again. So you think, maybe it's time for another break? This time you take more than a few days off, you walk past a half eaten carcass several times a day. Sometimes you will look at it, other days you do you best not to look in it's direction.
A few weeks goes by and you are at a point where you have to decide "Do I finish eating this ME? Or do I just push the half eaten carcass over a cliff?" At this point the only thing you remember about the taste of ME is that it is very filling, kind of bland and makes you really full, really fast. But if you wait any longer it will spoil. So you dig in, you take a few big bites and then you come up for air and realize "I am almost done." You convince yourself that you can finish this elephant and as you get closer to the end the meat isn't rotten ... it's actually getting sweeter and sweeter. You crave more and start eating faster ... until you're done, you've eaten your ME! Congratulations!
The feast started out tasting great, then got painfully bland and finally the pendulum swung and it may have been the best meal that you have ever finished!
Now, here's the great news ... you don't have to eat your ME alone! Some of the biggest elephants that you will ever have to eat are intended to feed 5 or 6 people! There is plenty to go around and you will get full credit for conquering your ME, you just have to be willing to share! People love to help! Helping others feels good, contributing feels great. Plus, getting help feels pretty good too. And, not only does it make others feel good to help, they know when they have a giant ME at their dinner table you will be happy to reciprocate! Everyone can conquer their ME's faster, without losing their appetite for the elephant and everyone will enjoy the feast!
Today is a great day to conquer your ME!
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